Learning From Lost Friendships

[Whenever I am online and I hear stories about how people met their best friends when they were young, I can’t help but feel a tinge of envy. Some of us have been blessed with the opportunity to know someone deeply, to love them like there is no tomorrow, only to have the misfortune of never seeing them again.

I still vividly remember the friend I made in first grade. We were inseparable. We would sit side by side in class, share our meals during recess, and walk each other to the gate when it was time to go home. I adored that dude so much, and it never made sense to me why he never returned the following year.

I remember the first day of the new school year, eagerly waiting for my friend to show up, convinced that he was just running late. The bell rang at noon, and I was so sure that I would see him the next day. Unfortunately, that day never came.

As I grew older, this scenario became all too familiar. Most of us have those friends we knew at certain periods in our lives, and when we think of them now, we can’t help but wonder – what are they doing? Are they alive? Do they ever think about us?

I still firmly believe that the people who have known their best friends since childhood are truly lucky. But even those of us who have lost friends due to circumstances beyond our control are fortunate in our own way.

It was because of those lost friendships that new bonds were forged. It was because of those lost friends that we experienced, over and over again, the process of knowing someone and welcoming them into our hearts. Those lost friendships may have left scars, but they have also shaped us into the individuals we are today.

If it weren’t for the friends we’ve lost along the way, we might not have the life we have now. We might not have become the people we are today. Those lost friendships, while painful, have ultimately contributed to our growth and the richness of our life experiences.

It was because of those lost friendships that we were able to forge new bonds. The pain of losing someone we cared about deeply taught us the value of opening our hearts to new people. We experienced, over and over again, the process of getting to know someone and allowing them into our lives.

Those lost friendships may have left emotional scars, but in a way, they have also shaped us into the individuals we are today. The lessons we learned from losing friends – about cherishing relationships, about resilience, about the fragility of life – have become an integral part of who we are.

In that sense, the friends we’ve lost have contributed to our growth and development, just as much as the friendships we’ve been able to maintain over the years. Their lasting influence may not be as visible, but it is no less profound

Written By

Zibele Gcingca